Kindness to me is showing compassion to others, treating others with respect, being a positive force in other peoples lives and acting in a caring way. Acts of kindness are when we have done something unexpected that has touched someone else’s heart, where we have helped them out and shown we care.
Giving in my view is the opposite of being selfish, it’s getting your self out of the way and focusing on other people. The obvious demonstration of giving is money, donating money to charity, buying people presents, meals and so on. However it is not all about money. You can be giving with your time, your love, your attention, your words, your actions, anything really that has an impact on others.
So I guess they are pretty similar! After my first week of “being giving” I have noticed how easy it is to be caught up in my own little world! However when I pull myself out of that and focus on others instead it’s so much more rewarding. A few things I have done this week are:
- Baked tiffin and gave half away to the next door neighbour, after she said it was the first time she had got her son to eat raisins 🙂
- Set up a donation to Battersea Cats and Dogs Home, they are extremely busy this time of year as people get animals for Christmas then just abandon them or their older animals. Being an animal lover I find this absolutely disgusting. In the last year they cared for 6,917 dogs and 2,742 cats, they made sure they were cared for in a safe environment whilst waiting to find their new homes, bless them.
- Volunteered my time to help at a charity lunch to raise money for Shelter Box who are an international disaster relief charity. They provide boxes which each contain a disaster relief tent for an extended family, blankets, water storage and filtration equipment, cooking utensils, a stove, a basic tool kit, a children’s activity pack and other vital items. These boxes get delivered to disaster stricken areas and each box provides shelter for up to 10 people. 250 boxes have already been delivered to the flooded areas in Thailand. With all the natural disasters we seem to be having now I am sure you can see how crucial the work of this charity is.
There have been lots of other little things I have done which I am not going to list here as I mentioned in my month of kindness it doesn’t feel quite right doing things to then write about them. Everything has just come from a space of being giving and it’s felt good to do so.
Oh and I may have found an opportunity to do some volunteer work when I am in India! When I was helping out at the charity lunch I met a really interesting lady who is involved with a charity near Chennai called The Malar Trust who bring help to poor rural villages in Tamil Nadu. In these areas there is little education, family support, people can’t afford health care and the elderly do not have enough care. She is going to speak to them and see if there is something I might be able to help with in February. So watch this space!
To finish off I am going to share with you an exercise I have read about in a book called 59 Seconds: Think a little, change a lot which I am going to use with my coaching clients during our week in the Caribbean, I think you may enjoy it too!
A diary with a twist!
This diary is designed to encourage you to write about things that will help to create a happier future.
Monday: Write about all the things in your life you are grateful for.
Tuesday: Think about one of the best experiences in your life, maybe a time where you felt amazing, content, peaceful, in love, excited and so on. Choose one experience and imagine you were back in the moment, write a description of that experience.
Wednesday: Write about your life in the future, as if all your goals have happened and you are living the life you dream of. What are you doing? What does it feel like?
Thursday: Think about someone important to you in your life and write them a letter how you feel about them, what they mean to you, what impact they have had in your life.
Friday: Think about the past week and write about 3 things that went really well for you, no matter how small.
Try this for a week and see how you feel.
Have a great week!