Be Present & Have Faith

flagI’ve been noticing a bit of a theme on Facebook over the past few days, that people seem to be having a bit of an emotional time right now. People’s posts have been reporting that they are feeling a bit lost, blue or facing some kind of challenge.

I have to admit I have been feeling the same over the past week. I’ve been blaming the moon! The full moon has a tendency to make me feel emotional even when there isn’t really anything to be emotional about.

I also think it’s the time of year, unless you’ve managed to escape to the sunshine February can often be a little depressing.

If you have been experiencing these waves of emotion too, please know that you are not alone.

What comforts me in times like this is that everything will pass. Just like the stormy weather last week and the beautiful sunshine we have had since. The sunshine will always come out in the end.

Life isn’t supposed to be easy. Through my tough times I have learnt to have faith in a power much bigger than me. I’ve learnt that I have peace, contentment and love with in me, I just need to be still and close my eyes to connect with it.

I’ve learnt that walking in nature helps to get things in to perspective and calms the mind.

I am aware that there are a lot more people far worse off than me and if I extend my love outside of myself to others it helps us all.

I’ve learnt that sometimes I just need a day to focus on me, to do what ever I feel like doing and to pamper myself a bit. Taking time out from all my to do list to this will help me to be more productive and creative in the end.

When it all comes down to it though anything that helps you to be in the moment right now will help. Most upset comes from the thinking about the past or worrying what may or may not happen the future. Something that helps me is to ask myself:

What am I grateful for right now?

So in this stormy weather of emotions my intention is to BE PRESENT & HAVE FAITH. To continually bring myself back to this moment when ever I find my mind wandering off (for me it’s into the future) and have faith that I am being looked after.

A great affirmation for this from Deepak Chopra is:

As I live in present moment awareness I live in the magic of syncronicity

I really find that Child’s pose helps with this feeling of being in the moment and surrendering to a power much higher than ourselves. Just kneeling, sitting back towards your heels, resting your forehead on the floor, hands by your feet, breathing deeply and letting go. Aaaahhhhhh.

Namaste

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Be Still & Arrive

sunriseA lot of my life I have wanted to be somewhere else.

After spending a year in Australia after University I longed to live in Sydney for many years.

After months exploring South East Asia, I craved being back there.

After spending a few weeks in India in my early twenties I longed to return there for a good few months to really explore all that amazing country has to offer.

Once I discovered my love of Brighton in my 30s I then longed to live here, hating to have to leave to go back to London after fun days by the beach.

It’s not just being in hot places, there have been times when I’ve spent time wanting to be out of situations too, for example in jobs I didn’t enjoy any more.

Don’t get me wrong, I have achieved all of this bar relocation to Sydney. Most winters I have escaped to spend wonderful times in Asia, elsewhere around the World, and of course now I am living in Hove. It’s great to have dreams, goals, and to fulfil them. I will always love travelling and I will always do it.

If there is a situation in your life you don’t feel fulfilled and nourished in then it’s so important to make those changes, no matter how scary it might feel.

What I have realised though is that I feel I have arrived in this moment. Living in Hove is where I am meant to be right now and it feels good. This is quite a feat for me in February, which is my least favourite month and the one I usually want to escape from the most.

The feeling of always wanting to be somewhere different to where I am can be quite exhausting!  It also takes my mind away from the present moment. Maybe that’s why I love travel so much because when I am on a hot beach I don’t want to be anywhere else. Still when I am away I can often catch myself wondering where to go next on my journey.

It’s not just being in other locations though, just yesterday I noticed how much I fill my days. There are always things to do, books to read, places to go, things to watch, people to chat to and so on. I stopped my self in the afternoon and just sat in stillness. Unless purposely meditating or doing yoga I rarely just sit down and do nothing. To just arrive.

If you relate to this at all have a look at what it might feel to to arrive where ever you are right now. To be in the present moment.

In yoga, you’ll often hear teachers saying at the beginning of a class something like “take a moment to arrive on your mat”. This is exactly what I am talking about. Bringing your mind into the stillness of your body in the moment.

When people come into a yoga class they may have just left work, they may have had to rush to get there, they might be in the middle of a conflict or situation out side of the yoga studio that is consuming their mind. A yoga session is a chance to leave all that outside and just be with yourself in the moment.

As always yoga can be translated into your life off the mat.

So what does it mean to you to arrive?

How would it be to arrive where ever you are right now?

Be still and arrive.

Namaste

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Coronation Street & Anita Moorjani

 

I can’t believe I am about to write about a soap opera in my blog but last night Coronation Street hit my emotions so much I spent the rest of the night dreaming about it!

Last night the character Hayley, who was suffering from cancer, took her life. She had been told she did not have long to live and she didn’t want to get to the stage where she wasn’t in control of her self any more. Her husband Roy disagreed with her decision but went along with it to support her, she died in his arms  much to his heart break.

It filled me with sadness because at the point she decided to die she was still able to get up, see her friends, laugh and even iron Roy’s best shirt for her funeral. She was still alive in every sense. It saddened me because she was told by the doctors she did not have long to live, she chose to believe this and planned from that moment to end it even sooner.

Now I have never experienced cancer but I am aware of the power of your thoughts. I also know this is a fictitious story but I am also aware it has the potential, like media does, to inspire others to do the same.

I have written about Anita Moorjani before but I felt this was a good time to bring her up again. She was also told she was dying of cancer, in fact she did for a few moments and had a near death experience that taught her how fear had created her illness and how love would cure it. She chose to come back to this life and her life threatening cancer healed within a few weeks. She has written a book, Dying To Be Me, about what she learned and now travels the world sharing her story to inspire others.

There are lots of great interviews with her on You Tube, for example this one. I really recommend listening to her story, learning from her and sharing it with others.

Always choose love over fear.

Namaste x

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A Meditation to Help Experience Your Intention

2014seaHappy New Year!

It’s day 4 of my January challenge….30 days of hot yoga and no cakes or chocolate.

Hot yoga……to cheer myself up for not being in India.

No sweet things because I have eaten so much chocolate over Christmas, haven’t we all?!

So far so good, although I have been eyeing up a chocolate lady bird on my desk that was somehow left over, maybe just to test my will power.

I created a great little ritual this year for setting my intentions. I wrote them on pebbles, then threw each one out to sea after saying a little prayer for it. The feeling of releasing them into the sea felt really good, like I was setting them free.

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I do suspect though that they may be on Brighton promenade now after the crazy storms we have had. Most of the beach has been shifted up to the pathway. Maybe someone else will pick one up and see it as a sign, I like the thought of that!

Obviously there is a lot written about goals, resolutions, making changes around this time of year so I don’t want to sound like a stuck record. The fact of that matter is every single moment is a new beginning, at any point in your life you can choose to make a change. Even better you can experience the change right now by setting an intention, rather than saying “once X has happened then I will feel X” you can choose to be that way right now.

You can choose love right now.

You can choose success right now.

You can choose abundance right now.

You can choose to have fun right now.

You can choose to be healthy right now.

This is the power of intention and why I love it so much!

Take a moment to pick an intention. Close your eyes and inhale, filling your body with that intention. On the exhale release anything that you need.

It goes something like this;

I inhale love

I release fear

I inhale love

I release guilt

I inhale love

I release hurt

I inhale love

I release fear

I inhale love

I release pain

I inhale love

I release control

…..and so on. Really feel your body fill up with your intention and as you exhale slowly let go of anything you don’t need any more. It’s up to you, this is all within your power.

Namaste

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A Few Things I learnt in 2013

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It’s just a few days until Christmas now and as usual I am loving the build up. I love the Christmas lights, catching up with friends & family, indulging on mince pies & mulled wine, giving presents, Christmas songs. It’s such a special time of the year.

I also love the end of a year, the feeling of something coming to a close and a new beginning ahead. Time is funny isn’t it, a man made concept but yet January always feels like a new start even though it’s really just another cycle of the moon.

I’ve been spending some time contemplating my first full year living in Hove & teaching yoga, what a wonderful journey it has been. Following are a few of my lessons learnt and thoughts over 2013:

  • This was the year of me really starting to sing out loud, something I had never done since being told I couldn’t at school. It’s so freeing and great for self expression.
  • Bhakti yoga/Kirtan which is chanting the name of The Divine is a fantastic form of meditation and completely drops you into the space of the heart.
  • This year I joined a church, it’s called Brighton Vineyard and it’s held in a college hall. It’s unlike the traditional churches I had visited before and been put off by. The focus is on the Holy Spirit, living as Jesus did and healing.
  • Since opening my mind, heart and life to God I can really feel the Holy Spirit guiding me now, sometimes I catch myself doing things I would not have dreamed of just a few years ago (like going to church for starters!!). This gives me a great sense of peace knowing I am being looked after.
  • God doesn’t always give you what you want but he gives you what you need. Even though sometimes in life what happens is the last thing you feel you want, there is a grander scheme.
  • The quickest, and most enjoyable, way to get over a break up is to be loving to yourself and do what ever feels good for you right in the moment. Leave any “got to” “should dos” at the door and pamper yourself silly!
  • Hula Hooping is seriously fun and great for your abs.
  • Paddle boarding is not as hard as it looks and a wonderful feeling to be standing out to  sea.
  • Sharks are near to becoming extinct because of the disgraceful “luxury” shark fin soup that the Chinese love so much, the poor sharks are often chucked back into the sea alive without a fin. Yet another disgusting thing to come out of China.
  • Speaking of fish, I was never really aware of how much damage we are doing to the sea bed and marine life through over fishing. Tuna, salmon, cod, prawns especially are off limits to me now which is even more of a challenge to me than giving up meat was.
  • I have not been ill once this year, and one of my intentions for the year was I am Divine Health, it certainly feels like my truth now.
  • I did however had a bit of back pain and what what I learnt from that was how amazing self massage with a yamuna/tennis/spiky ball can be! You simply roll around on it where ever the tension is, in my case my gluts and it is great to release shoulder tension.
  • Nothing beats a massage though, they are so good for you in every way and caring about yourself enough to buy yourself one is uplifting in itself.
  • I bought my first tent in about 15 years and enjoyed sleeping in the great outdoors this summer. Speaking of camping, if you are interested in yoga I highly recommend Colourfest Festival in Dorset,  will definitely be going there again in 2014.
  • Hove really is the most amazing place to live (in the UK) in the summer; swimming in the sea, live music on the beach, Marrocco’s ice cream, take out pizza on the beach, paddle boarding, sunsets, starting off the day walking out to sea at low tide……oh and did I mention the beach? 🙂
  • I recently completed another yoga teacher training in trauma sensitive yoga.  I am really looking forward to offering yoga as a way to help people recover from trauma next year, and also helping people who suffer with high stress levels. Yoga can give you the tools to manage yourself in any situation and it can be extremely healing.
  • Having the intention of I AM LOVE naturally keeps my heart open, this doesn’t mean I always feel good, it leaves me open to the potential of being hurt but that’s OK. I would rather be open, be loving, be kind, be compassionate than closed off and void of feeling any deep emotions at all.
  • ….and finally mung bean soup! I couldn’t not mention it here after it becoming my staple meal since the summer! Great for detox, balancing blood sugar and loosing weight.

It’s amazing how a year can fly by but yet you can achieve and learn so much. Sometimes the lessons are not immediate but appear over time.

Make time to celebrate your year and get ready to welcome in the new, 2014!

Namaste

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A Christmas Intention

2011-12-17 23.19.14As we silently moved into December on Saturday night the Christmas period suddenly became alive, every where I went yesterday was full of festive cheer! From Tesco’s blaring out “Merry Christmas Everyone!” to a fun afternoon at a Christmas party in a big tipee on Brighton beach.

I love this time of year, actually it’s the only few weeks of winter I can say I really enjoy. Beyond January I am counting down the days to summer and escaping off to a warmer clime when I can. There’s just an excitement in the air, I love the lights, the smell of mulled wine and a crackling fire. Overall though it’s such a great time to connect with friends and family, not that this doesn’t happen through out the year but people seem to make an extra effort to do so.

Whilst sitting here listening to my Christmas Spotify playlist (do love Spotify!) I suddenly realised, it’s a great time to create an intention for the month ahead. A Christmas intention! What do I really want to experience this month?

I went to a lovely yoga Satsang last week with Rev Padma Priya, who spoke about when you relax in life you allow God/ The Universe/ High Consciousness (you choose your word) to work through you. By relaxing and being open, you are ready to receive what is the highest good for your life. It may be unexpected, and sometimes feel unwanted, but it is always going to be for a higher purpose and what is best for you.

I know from experience when I relax and let go, stuff starts to happen. It’s so easy to forget that though, when I have a million ideas of things to do!

Padma Priya used the analogy of God, The Creator, needing a pen to create something. Which pen would it choose;

  • The pen that doesn’t work, never has and never will
  • The pen that stops and starts
  • The pen that just flows, has the perfect nib and when ever you pick it up to use it the ink runs smoothly
  • Or the pen that thinks it knows what is best, you try to write one thing but it will write what ever it chooses, it has a mind of it’s own.

Which pen do you think?

Working for myself often leads me down the path of being very busy making things happen. I think I would probably be like the pen that thinks I know what is best!

Yoga definitely helps with this, it causes me to be still, go within, connect with my higher self and be present. I am grateful to have this practice to come back to every day, when ever I need it.

So back to my Christmas intention. This Christmas I am LOVE & CREATIVITY.

What does this look like? Well I see it as taking all perceived pressure off, enjoying the moment, which I believe is needed to allow creativity to flow. You can not force creativity, it just flows naturally when you are having fun, and not thinking about it too much. Creativity is not just art, we are all creating our lives every day.  In this relaxed state I will be in an open space to be able to listen to my higher self and receptive to the unexpected that comes into my life that guides me to what I am led to create next in 2014.

I am going to be creative with my time, the gifts I give and maybe I will actually do a bit of art in some form. I find doing some art is like a meditation and it’s amazing what can come out of it. I did love my month of Being Creative back in May 2011.

Love is obviously in there as it’s my overall intention always, I actually believe it’s the true state of being for all of us, just sometimes we forget it.

I have learnt over the years that when you set an intention you won’t always know how it will happen and in what form, this is where being open to being guided comes in. Trusting if its for your highest good, you will be guided to ways that make it your reality maybe in a way you could never have imagined. Setting an intention causes the Universe to start to shift things in such a way to cause it to happen.

This feels like the perfect place to be as I move into 2014 and start to consider what my intention is for the New Year. This month I’ll be doing my review of 2013, something I always find so useful to reflect on what has gone well, what hasn’t and what I have learnt. I really believe there are no failures, only lessons that until you learn them situations will keep happening until you finally get it!

If you’d like some help with reviewing your year and creating your intention for 2014 I am running an offer at the moment for a 4 hour coaching session  to do just that! Please see my  Create Yourself website for more details.

Namaste

heartsand

 

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An Unexpected Breakthrough

sunrise4I have had quite an unbelievable couple of weeks. Two weeks ago on Sunday I asked God for a breakthrough in my relationship with Ben. It wasn’t that there was really anything wrong apart from a disconcerting feeling that something wasn’t right. I just felt that maybe a honest conversation was needed to be had.

One week later we broke up! I certainly hadn’t expected that, I had strong feelings for Ben and I didn’t want it to be over. I felt incredibly sad and disappointed that we could not have found a way to work it out, it all seemed such a shame as we were good together. I questioned God, how could that be a break through, it certainly wasn’t what I wanted!!

Last week was a whirlpool of emotions. I know that in any kind of upsetting circumstances the best thing to do is to do what ever I feel like doing, to allow the feelings to come and to do loving things for myself. I fully embraced this and actually ended up having a really lovely week.

I practised my yoga, I had lots of laughter with friends, I gave myself and others Reiki, I watched films, sat in the sunshine on the beach, had massages, hula hooped, spent extra time at the cats home and I went home to my parents. By Saturday I was feeling more uplifted than anything and as I walked along the beach I started to come to realise what I could learn from the situation.

I strongly believe there is always something to learn through the hard times and if you can take responsibility for your side of things that empowers you to know you will not go through it again once the lesson is learned. Until you learn the lesson you will just keep repeating the same pattern over and over again.

Ben was like no other man I have met before, he broke many of my past patterns. He was so much of what I am looking for in a man that I am happy to know energetically I am attracting someone like that into my life. It began as a whirlwind though, which many of my relationships do, and I believe this is the lesson for myself. It was only further down the line I realised actually he wasn’t really right for me.

My heart is so open I let people in very quickly, I am never cautious, I romantically rush in head first. My heart is precious and I think the lesson here is about slowing down, taking my time and listening to my heart. Not just in relationships but in all aspects of life. I have written here before how I have a tendency to do things rather quickly!

Just before we broke up, someone prayed for me and said they felt drawn to tell me that God doesn’t always give you what you want but he gives you what you need. I have faith this needed to happen for some reason, that there is something better for me around the corner and that I am being looked after. I really do feel that in my heart.

My intention week is the yoga practice of Ahimsa which is one of a “Yama’s” of the 8 limbs of Yoga. A Yama is an ethical discipline. Ahimsa means non violence to all beings. The flip side of this is love, being loving to all creation. This includes to yourself. It’s in thought, word and action, in every way of your being. I’ll be bringing this to life in my yoga class this evening and sharing it with my class. I am so grateful for teaching yoga, I love it!

Namaste

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Men Are From Mars

loverevolutionI recently re read Men Are From Mars Women are From Venus by John Gray. I first got it when I was a teenager and think I probably only flicked through it quickly back then, oh how I wish I had paid a bit more attention now!

It’s such an insightful book about the differences between men and women, we really are different species. One bit I found helpful to understand is that we both fluctuate in and out of relationship. Gray likens men to rubber bands, one minute they will be fully with you then the next they feel the need to pull back to get their independence and autonomy, to allow themselves to miss you then they spring back.

Where as he says women are more like waves, when at their peak they are feeling loved, good about themselves, have a lot of love to give and in their own power then they can dip into needing reassurance, feeling empty and emotional.

What often happens is when a man pulls back needing his space the woman will try and go after him, needing reassurance, which makes them want to stretch further away. Understanding the need for space and just allowing them to get on with it, while you do things you love to do helps. Just as if a woman is in a dip for a man to acknowledge that and give her a bit of extra love will save the day!

I can relate to all of this so much, I sometimes think I am a bit like a man! Whilst I love to be in a relationship I also still love all the other aspects of my life. When I get close to someone I can sometimes feel a bit like I am loosing myself so I then find myself distancing myself again to get back in my power. I also go in waves of feeling great and then needing a bit of reassurance, so thankfully I am feminine as well, and this is all totally normal, phew.

What the book does is gives you an insight into each others behaviours and relationship values, so you can start to understand our differences to be able have compassion and respect for each others needs.

I had an interesting realisation last week around feeling lack of money, I came up with a combination of questions that helped me to get out of it and create intention instead. From feeling lack I moved into inspiration quickly and had some steps to get myself in action. Here they are:

What I am lacking?

Why do I want more of X?

What will I be doing when I have more X?

How will I be being?

Switch this around into affirmations such as:

I am generous

I am financially independent

I am free

I am love

I am a published author

……and so on.

From here consider what actions you could take to be “being” your intention?

Just work through these and see how you feel.

My intentions at the moment are to:

  • Teach more yoga
  • Write my book on intention!
  • Be KIND…..look for random acts of kindness I can do daily

I am offering a couple of different coaching opportunities at the moment to help you create your intentions for 2014. The 1-1 option is as follows:

Create A Life You Love in 2014

Set yourself up for a great year ahead with a 4 hour Create 2014 Coaching Session. This will include:

  • A review of 2013
  • Intention (Goal) setting & planning how you’ll achieve them
  • Manifestation techniques to help make your dreams a reality
  • NLP to help you be in the best mindset to really go for it

*****Discount for bookings made before 31st December – £150*****, usual price £240.

Group Coaching

An alternative option if you prefer to work in a group is a series of group coaching sessions with me in Hove, the first Sundays of each month from December to February.

  • The first session in December (1st) will be to review 2013 and create your intentions for 2014.
  • In January (4th) we will look at what you need to do and who you need to be to manifest your intentions.
  • In February (1st) we will look at anything that might be getting in the way of you achieving your intentions.

All sessions will include time for guided meditation. Each session is £40 or there is a discount for booking all 3 at £100.

Please contact me if you have any questions or would like to book; [email protected]/ 07779 150886

Namaste

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Just Listen

cloudsMy intention this week is to listen. That is really to listen to my inner guide, that is God/Universe/Higher Consciousness what ever you choose to call it.

I am also going to extend this out to actively listening to every one I interact with, that is not thinking about what to say next while they are still speaking and noticing the things that the other person doesn’t say, the more subtle layers of communication. This is something I do as a coach but not necessarily in every conversation out side of that. It’s quite surprising the extra effort it can take to actively listen but when you do the richness of the communication is so much deeper.

Listen to nature too; to just stop and listen to the wind, to the falling rain, to the waves crashing against the shore, to the birds singing, or in the case of sea gulls, squawking!

This has come from a discussion I have been having recently around finding my Calling in life. I feel the work I do is part of my Calling but there is still something just around the corner, another layer to it all that I have not expected. I am asking to be led to this and to notice it when it arrives.

This is going to require some serious listening! Listening to instinct, heart flutters, stomach flips, an inner knowing, signs, chance conversations some of which will be Gods way of leading me there.

I am going to be strict with my meditation routine and having silent periods throughout my day. Yoga is so helpful with this, every time I get on my mat it’s a chance to go with in. To connect with myself and have the space to listen.

I invite you to take a look at where you could benefit from listening a little bit more in your life?

Do you find your self half listening when someone else is speaking? I know I have been guilty of multi tasking when on the phone or caught up in other thoughts which leads to only half paying attention.

How often do you sit in silence and really listen?

Do you notice your body reaction to different events in your life? Your body unconsciously gives off signals when something is good for you or not, but often we ignore it.

Do you notice signs, new people coming into your life, passing conversations that could help you in the direction you want to go or are you closed off from them by being caught up in the mind?

I have a great affirmation for this intention which I am going to use through out each day:

As I create and listen I will be led.

Have a great week!

Namaste

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Being Peaceful

Being peaceful is knowing that right now in this moment everything is working out. It’s connecting with the real you, the inner you, the place inside you that is always at peace before your mind (ego) takes over.

How often do you feel in this place? Honestly?

I am like a yo yo! When I practice yoga, by the end of it I feel at peace. When I sit on the beach and watch the sunlight sparkling on the water I feel at peace. When I pray I feel at peace. After a good laugh out loud with friends I feel at peace.

The rest of the time….maybe not always! There is always something to think about, to do, to work towards. It can be pretty tough when you work for your self to feel at peace all of the time, trusting it is all working out.

That’s the thing. It all comes down to TRUST. When you let go of attachments and trust, peace fills you.

I have been helping a friend through a difficult time recently, an addiction which completely takes over the soul and removes any experience of peace. With my new found faith I have been praying. I had prayer at church last Sunday for us both and the Holy Spirit filled me with peace.

I feel bonkers writing that, my faith is still so new that even expressing it is bizarre, but it’s how I felt. I experience a sense of love rushing into my heart and a serenity taking over my being. I can’t explain how I believe I can only gage it by how I feel.

So my intention this week is PEACE, I feel like I have been given a kick start by the Holy Spirit but I am maintaining this sense of serenity through out the week in every area of my life and my being.

Namaste

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